THE POWER OF GOODBYE.

YogaFitnessEmpowerment
Written By Diana Vitantonio
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I had a teacher once that gave me a homework assignment that I will never forget. She said, “Write a goodbye letter to yourself.”  She instructed me to say goodbye to the life I thought I would have so that I could live the life that I actually already had. Here’s the thing: I never did the homework. If you asked me why then I would tell you that I avoided the question like I avoided homework in general.

Many years had passed and I never forgot the assignment. It wouldn’t leave me alone.  It would come to me in certain moments and it would stop me in my tracks. I always thought of it as both brilliant and important and yet… I still hadn’t done it. Until last year.

I had a moment where I was sick of myself - not in bitterness, but in pain. My teacher, Baron Baptiste would say, “When the pain gets painful enough you will stop.”  It was actually just like that. I had repeated the same painful pattern again. This time I was on on my knees. Well… actually I was in my car while it was parked in my driveway, but you get the point. My fist hit the steering wheel and I thought of that letter that I never wrote. As I thought of it I allowed myself to cry. I cried and then I wrote that letter.   

I said goodbye to myself - not all of me, just one part. This part is deeply personal and painful and covered in shame. I said goodbye the moment I said hello, the moment I acknowledged and took responsibility for how I had been hurting myself. I let go of blame and went into my shame and found the wound. I wept and I forgave myself for not recognizing my worth. I saw how I had repeatedly not chosen myself. In the letter I wrote about how I had sabotaged myself again and again and what the pattern had looked like.

From that moment on, I made a vow to choose the opposite. I would choose myself. For me, it was a moment where I felt my power come back to me. I believe so fiercely in the power of that letter and I believe we all have a letter.

It’s time. Grab a pen. Grab your journal. Write the letter and reclaim your power.

xo,

Diana 

Diana Vitantonio

My name is Diana Vitantonio and I am a Self Esteem coach for women. Nothing lights my heart up more than witnessing another woman empower, heal and forgive herself so that she can begin to value herself in every decision she makes. This is a BIG DEAL. It seems easy but this is the deep and hard work of diving into your interior and all the parts of yourself that you don’t know that well yet. This is how I believe you truly love yourself.

For most of my life I have been able to act confident but I haven’t always had self esteem. To me, confidence is what it looks like on the outside. Self esteem is what it is on the inside. Self esteem is found in our patterns, not a single moment. It’s what we believe about ourselves and what we do over and over again. Self Love for most people takes unlearning and relearning. I teach people how to listen to their intuition, how to manage their thoughts, how to emotionally process, re-learning communication skills , how to find clarity on their wants and needs, and how to be successful in communicating and respecting boundaries.

https://www.dianavitantonio.com
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